Love Bonds are Eternal

Animals in spirit.

Following on from yesterday’s post about how end of life healing can help animals I thought I would share with you a heartwarming experience that I had back last winter.  I have never had any doubt that when the physical body expires, just as with humans there is a place for animals in spirit.

The day was cold, crisp with a bright blue, cloudless, sky and I decided to walk my dogs in the local woodland.  There was dusting of frost on the remaining leaves, it was as if everything had been dusted with diamonds.  We had been walking for about an hour and were making our way back to the car when I saw two men and a dog walking towards me.  The men were dressed in tweed style country clothing one was wearing a flat cap and the other had a long wooden staff, they were deep in conversation.  Beside the man with the staff walked a Black Labrador who was looking right up into the man’s face as he talked.  I payed attention to this dog, as I do any other, partly because I just love dogs and would not wish to waste an opportunity to  see one or even better interact with one!  The other reason is to check the approaching dog’s body language to make sure it will be sociable with my own.  However, this particular dog only had eyes for his human, it warmed my heart to see such an obvious display of love and devotion.  Yes I did use the ‘L word’.  There is absolutely no doubt in my mind, having worked with these animals for over two decades, that dogs feel love and what makes them such special creatures is that they love without condition.  Humans could learn a great deal from our canine companions!

I continued to watch and admire the beauty of the dog, but as they approached the dog began to fade.  The closer they got to me the more translucent the dog was, until when they were around 10 feet from me he disappeared completely and it was at this moment that I realised the dog was still taking walks with his friend from spirit.  I was flabbergasted!

This was the first such happening for me (although I had seen and felt my own dogs who have passed on occasion) and it gave me goosebumps from head to toe.  Those love bonds were allowing the dog to be with his companion for what was, probably, the thing that he enjoyed most during his lifetime in the physical word.  Since then I have been able to see / feel other animals that have passed away, but still have that loving bond with their owners, not just horses, dogs and cats, but a rabbit too.  It is very comforting and I feel very privileged to have had these experiences.

I think this poem sums it up beautifully.

I have not gone

You think I’ve gone, that I am dead, and life has lost its will,
But look around, I am right there, living with you still
I watch your tears, I feel your pain – I see the things you do
I weep as well, each time you cry, my soul, it lives with you

It gives such joy to hear you laugh, and do the things you do
And when you smile o’er by gone days, I smile right with you too
For we’re still one, just you and me, one mind, one soul, one being
Walking forward into life, though only you are seen

And in the stillness of the night, when the pain it really starts
Stretch out a little with your mind and draw me to your heart
For I am always right in there, always by your side
For you have been, all my life’s days, my joy, my love my pride.

Author unknown



End of Life Healing

Reiki Healing for terminally ill animals – a case history.

I have given Reiki to many animals who were terminally ill and as they crossed over.  It is a sad experience to see loving animal parents in such a state of sorrow, but end of life healing can also be a beautiful experience as they pass without fear and stress.

I would like to tell you about a dog that I was asked to give healing to earlier this year.  The dog was a large breed, I will not go into further details about the actual animal as this could be distressing for the owner.  He was extremely ill and had undergone major abdominal surgery.  The owner did not live in my area and so I was asked to send healing from a distance.  If you are not familiar with energy healing this sounds a bit whacky, but we are all energy and with some training and practice it is quite possible to send healing remotely – distance no object.

I am often asked to give healing as a last resort, it is something that many people seek out when all other options have failed and they are looking for a miracle.  I work with photographs as, for me, it is easier to get a connection with an animal or person through a picture.

I was sent a photograph of the dog, sat in my quiet space and very quickly got a good energetic link with him.  His energy was extremely low and experience has taught me that when I feel this it is a signal that means the animal is coming to the end of it’s life in the physical world or has reached a point where the spark of life is dimming.  Sometimes the spark will reignite and it is possible for a being to recover, usually if they have more to do with their lives.  This is something that they need to decide.

The first session was good, the owner reported that the dog had slept more peacefully than before.  In the morning I set about another healing session, with seriously ill animals or people I will do as many sessions a day as my intuition guides me to, sometimes every 2 hours initially.  As I tuned into the dog I immediately felt sick and although the dog was taking the energy, I knew that he was not going to pull through.  Later on in the day I felt drawn to send more healing and as I sat I felt that there had been a big shift in his energy, he was much calmer and more settled.  I then had a vision in my mind’s eye of an angel standing at the dog’s back one hand on his neck and one on his back, they looked up at me nodded and smiled and I felt the dog totally relax.  This was a most beautiful moment for me.  I knew he was where he was supposed to be.  I received an email the following morning to tell me he had passed away, but I already knew.

What is the point of end of life healing?
It is my belief that the reason I had been asked to send healing to this dog was to bring about an angelic presence to help him home, not to make him recover from his surgery as his time here had come to a close.  A few days later he appeared to me during a meditation looking well and happy and nodded his thanks to me.  This is something I have experienced many times sometimes days, weeks, months or even years after an animal has passed.

As light workers, spiritual warriors and healers it is important not to be attached to an outcome, all we can do is send healing for the highest good and sometimes that highest good means that it is time to go.

Poem Little Friend 

You have been there beside me for so many years,
Slept on my bed,
Comforted my tears,
Always pleased to see me,
When I return home,
Never that happy to be left on your own.

Now I look at you in the dusk of your days,
The light that shone brightly,
Is just a dim haze,
My heart fills with sadness,
As I know that soon,
Your time will arrive,
I will have to face that gloom.

I’ve just returned home,
From the out of hours vet,
I’m all alone now,
My eyes stinging and wet.
You lay in my car,
At last you have peace,
On your fluffy little cushion,
Snugly wrapped in a fleece.

We’ll lay you in the garden,
Maybe plant you a tree,
To commemorate your life,
And how you filled us with glee.

As I sit on my sofa,
New pup at my side,
I can laugh at the memories,
And remember how I’ve cried,
You will always be there with me,
There’s a place inside my heart,
You were such a special Little Man,
I’m we will never part.

©Lesley Collinson

Dog Training the Reiki Way

Firstly, for those who are only just meeting me, let me explain that my background is in dog training and behaviour.  So before you think I am some kind of ‘floaty, dress your dog in angel wings and all will be well’ kind of gal – I will tell you now that I am not!  What I am is someone who has be benefit of understanding how and why dogs do stuff coupled with an understanding of energy and energy healing and how it affects all aspects of our lives whether we realise it or not and on top of all that an unrivalled passion, love and respect for all animals, but especially dogs.

Living with a dog can be a wonderful experience of man and canine in perfect harmonious partnership, but sadly my work has shown me that this isn’t always the case.  I hope this precursor to my book will help you regain a little more harmony in your relationship with man’s best friend.  Here I will talk about living the ‘Reiki way’ with your dog, don’t panic though you don’t have to know how to do Reiki to achieve this, although it can certainly help.

Most of the problems that develop in the dog / owner relationship are routed in a communication break down.  Please remember dogs are not English speaking animals!  When I said this to one of my behaviour clients a few years ago she said “Ah yes you are right, he is from Spain so he speaks Spanish!”  Not quite Pedro actually spoke DOG!  The communication break down can be split into two main parts; a lack of understanding of what a dog was bred to do and ‘humanising’ the dog; that is placing human expectations of behaviour onto the dog.

Let’s start with the breed specific communication problem.  For example Gundogs like Labrador Retrievers, Spaniels and so on will often like to carry something in their mouths and if appropriately attractive things aren’t available to carry they will bring you the first thing that looks like it fits the bill; slippers, shoes, dirty laundry, they never lack in enthusiasm for finding something to greet you with – it is what they are genetically hard wired to do.  Lurchers, Greyhounds and other hound breeds will like to chase pray and some hounds are very scent focused, everyone knows about Blood Hounds!  Collies and other Shepherd breeds like to herd things which often involves the chasing of a jogger and nipping at their heels! Terriers like to kill things and it is best if this is one of it’s own toys rather than the pet hamster!

When your most precious possession ends up with dog teeth marks in it, your Sunday roast gets taken from the worktop or you once again apologise to a member of the public for a doggy misdemeanour you have a choice you can react with anger, shout at maybe even hit the dog in an attempt to teach it a lesson or you can approach it the Reiki way:  You will not give rise to anger, you won’t succumb to worry, you will remember your many blessings and be grateful for them and you will be kind to your furry companion (4 of the 5 Reiki Principles).  This is step 1 it will then provide a positive learning environment for teaching to begin.  Step 2 is to ask yourself what reward is the dog getting from this behaviour and how can you redirect it in a positive way?  Work at finding another behaviour that is incompatible with the undesirable one that the dog will enjoy.

Here is an example that happened to me just this morning whilst walking one of my dogs;  He is off lead and a lady is approaching, not just any lady, this one had groceries in bags and for all I knew there could have been chicken, sausage, cheese – all his favourites.  I noticed him looking, putting his nose in the air to see what he could smell and before his brain had totally engaged I called him to me, he sat as I had trained him to do and then walked beside me as requested all the while being told how clever he was.  Here is the sequence: “Fido come, good boy.  Fido sit, clever lad (gentle stroke behind the ear).  Fido Heel, good lad”.  Lady passes by as the dog walks at my side. “OH WOW WHAT A GOOD BOY, WELL DONE FELLA” (enthusiastic voice, hand clapping and a food reward of appropriate value). My dog trotted along, head and tail carriage high, having had a confidence boost and a positive interaction.  I didn’t need to tell him off and erode my relationship with him as he had been redirected in positive way and given guidance on what the desirable behaviour was.

Humanising our dogs is something that we are all guilty of at times.  We expect them to not stick there noses up Grandma’s bottom when she comes to visit even though this is a perfectly reasonable way for a dog to greet and fact find about a visitor in the Canine world.  Dogs have a range of emotions just as we do they can get depressed, angry, happy, a bit cheesed off etc, however, this doesn’t mean that the same things trigger those emotions.  One emotion that is very misunderstood is guilt.  The whole ‘he knows he has been bad, just look at the way he is hiding under the table’ scenario.  As I said before if a dog finds something rewarding it is likely to repeat it, but this could be the stress relief that it finds by chewing the sofa when it has been left for an extended period with no prior exercise and no training on how to cope when the social pack animal is left home alone.

Dogs are not naughty, they don’t plot to drive you crazy, but if you ignore them when they are being good, neglect to teach them what are suitably rewarding activities for both dog and owner and here is the big one don’t give them adequate exercise then your human behavioural expectations will not be met.

So where does Universal energy (Reiki) fit into all of this, aside from living by the principles mentioned earlier?  We are energy, so are our dogs in fact all living things are made of energy.  You and your dog have a biomagnetic energy field around you (your aura) and when you have a good understanding bond with your dog the energy will flow freely, love and positivity vibrates at a higher frequency than anger and dislike.  When you sit on the sofa with your dog and have one of those beautiful moments where you look into each others souls, your energy fields merge, you experience an intense loving feeling and a release of the hormone Oxytocin which research has shown that dogs also experience.

When you are angry your energy frequency changes, there will be no opportunity for Oxytocin release and you will not get the strong bond with your dog that you would like.  I have known trainers who use punitive methods of getting a dog to do what they want and the dog responds out of fear because it has been broken.  Dogs are extremely sensitive to their owners emotions, they will know when you are depressed, angry or happy, sometimes before you do!  They are particularly adept and watching your body language, picking up on key ‘trigger’ words and I believe detecting a change in your Aura.  If you would like to know more about the science of energy frequencies and Reiki this is an extremely good scientific document.

In a nutshell what you project out your dog will respond to.  Take a little time to learn what makes him / her tick and tap into those genetic predispositions that most dogs (mongrels too) will have.  Above all try to live with your dog by the Reiki principles. 

This is just a taste of how to begin to live in harmony with your dog.  If you are having problems please seek the advice of a suitably qualified professional who uses positive training methods. Read Culture Clash by Jean Donaldson, Think Dog by John Fisher and Clever Dog by Sarah Whiteheadand of course ‘Train Your Dog the Reiki Way when it is published!